What can Youth do?

If you recognize that your friend is feeling suicidal take them seriously.

Do:

• LISTEN – don't give advice, make judgements, or attempt to solve their problem – just listen
• Comment on the changes that you have noticed ("I've noticed that you haven't been laughing so much these days, is something wrong?") this shows that you are concerned
• Take their problems seriously
• Send the message that you care about them, that you want to help

Don’t say:

• "Oh come on, things aren't that bad."
• "You have it good compared to..."
• "Aren't you exaggerating a bit?"
• "Suicide! That's a stupid way to solve your problem."
• "Hang in there things will blow over."
• "You think you have it bad? You should see what my parents..."

Ask Questions:

"Have you ever wished you could just disappear?"

"Have you ever felt so bad that you wanted to die."

"Are you thinking about killing yourself?" *

* If the answer is yes, keep asking questions:

• "How are you planning to do it?"
• "When are you going to do it?"
• "Do you have what you need to do it?"(i.e. access to drugs, guns, knives, rope, a car)
• The more dangerous and definite the plan, the greater the risk of attempting suicide

Get Help Immediately

Do not leave the person alone! Get help even if your friend has asked you not to tell anyone. Don't ever agree to keep someone's suicidal plans a secret. An angry friend is better than a dead friend. Try to get them to tell you who they trust. Stay with your friend until you find an adult who can help.

Who Can Help?

Parents, relatives, neighbours, family doctor, coaches, adult friends, school counsellor, teacher, principal, or receptionist.