There is no perfect formula for a happy life, but its a culmination of many formulas. As with anything in life you cant do just one thing in your life, it has to be a combination, and the more people you have in your life the easier it will be. If you want to talk about something talk with the people that will listen to you. Usually, those are the same people that care about you, but it can also be somebody new that can help you see life in a new perspective. The important thing is to not keep thoughts to yourself.
Make sure you have an active life. Pursue your hobbies, take up sports, follow your artistic calling, or try something new. Life is full of opportunities waiting to be grabbed!
Become an Assertive Teen
– Expresses personal likes and dislikes
– Feels comfortable making personal decisions
– Agrees to disagree or compromise
– Can say “NO”
– Stands up to others
– Doesn’t let people take advantage of their kindness, skills, or personal belongings
– Respects others and in return gets respect
– Back to the top
Develop Healthy Personal Boundaries
– Choose who you want to share your “personal stuff” with
– Stand by your personal values and rights
– Notice when someone is disrespectful to you or taking advantage of you
– Listen to the advice of others and then decide if you will follow it or carry on with your own decision
– Maintain a healthy sense of privacy
– Decide who can touch you and where they can touch you
– Be aware of your personal space and how close you will allow others to be
– Pay attention to your need to have some quiet time alone or with someone that you feel comfortable being around
Some appropriate responses to use when your boundaries are not respected:
– “NO” (it is not selfish to say NO)
– “Don’t touch me.”
– “I don’t want to talk about this with you.”
– “I can’t be your friend anymore because I don’t feel that you respect me.”
– “If you don’t stop this behavior I am leaving.”
– Leave the room
– Refuse to read a note
– Screen your phone calls
– Don’t return phone calls
When you are feeling scared or anxious, it helps to think positive thoughts about yourself. This might be hard because you’ve probably been thinking bad thoughts for a long time.
You might find it easier if you write down some positive thoughts so that you can remember them when you need them.
Here are some examples:
– “I can handle this.”
– “It might be scary but I can get through it.”
– “I’m okay the way I am.”
– “I will do my best and not worry about what others think.”
– “It’s okay to make mistakes.”
– “People love me for who I am.”
– “I have friends who care about me.”
– “I’ll be okay, this is just a feeling. It will go away.”
– “Other people have been through this and they made it.”
Self Esteem What you should do and what you should not:
– Worry so much about what people think of you
– Question your basic worth as a human being
– Blame yourself when things go wrong in your life
– Accept inappropriate blame that others try to put on you
– Compare yourself to others
– Give yourself permission to fail
– Keep being yourself
– Expect to make mistakes
– Treat yourself like you are a worthwhile person
– Give yourself credit for your personal achievements
– Acknowledge your natural talents
A self-destructive individual may not request help, but that doesn’t imply that assistance isn’t needed. Individuals who end their lives would prefer not to pass on—they simply need the hurting to stop. Suicide avoidance begins with becoming aware of the signs and considering them important. In the event that you think a companion or relative is thinking about suicide, you may be hesitant to raise the subject. However, raising that subject can make the difference between life and death.
The World Health Organization evaluates that around 1 million individuals bite the dust every year from suicide. What drives such a significant number of people to take their own lives? For people who are not in the grasps of self-destructive melancholy and despondency, it’s hard to comprehend what drives such huge numbers of people to take their own lives. In any case, a self-destructive individual is in so much torment that he or she can see no other alternative but the easy escape of death.
Suicide is an escape from the unendurable torment that is every day pain. Blinded by sentiments of self-hatred, sadness, and disconnection, a self-destructive individual can’t perceive any method for discovering help with the exception of through death. Be that as it may, regardless of their need for the agony to stop, most self-destructive individuals are struggling about the decision. They wish there was another option to suicide, however they can’t see one. Its hard to help somebody because in order to help them one must understand their desire for the sweet release.
Common misinterpretations about suicide
Myth: People who discuss suicide won’t generally do it.
Certainty: Almost everybody who dances with the idea of suicide has provided some insight into their state. Try not to disregard even the smallest references to death or suicide. Proclamations like “You’ll be sad when I’m gone,” “I can’t see any way out,” — regardless of how coolly or flippantly stated, may demonstrate genuine self-destructive emotions.
Myth: Anyone who tries to murder him/herself must be insane.
Truth: Most self-destructive individuals are not maniacal or crazy. They usually feel vexed, anguish stricken, discouraged, depressed, lonely or hopeless, yet that still does not point to any indications of psychological impairment.
Myth: If a person is resolved to murder, nothing will stop them.
Reality: Even the most extremely discouraged individual has mixed sentiments about death, faltering until the last minute between needing to live and needing to bite the dust. Most self-destructive individuals don’t want certain death; but they need the agony to stop. The motivation to end it all, however overwhelming, does not keep going forever but it can be strong especially when the problem comes to light.
Myth: People who kick the bucket by suicide are individuals who were unwilling to look for assistance.
Certainty: Studies of suicide casualties have demonstrated that the greater part of depressed people looked for therapeutic help in the last year of their life.
Myth: Talking about suicide may give somebody that thought.
Reality: You don’t give self-destructive individuals suicide thoughts by discussing suicide. The inverse is actually true—raising the subject of suicide and talking about it straightforwardly with the person s amongst the best things you can do for them.
Cautioning signs of suicide
Consider any self-destructive talk or conduct important. It’s not only a notice sign that somebody is considering suicide—it’s a weep for assistance.
Most self-destructive people give cautioning signs or flags of their plans. The most ideal approach to suicide type situations is to perceive these notice signs and know how to react in the event that you spot them. In the event that you trust that a companion or relative is self-destructive, you can assume a part in suicide avoidance by pointing out the choices, demonstrating that you give it a second thought, and getting a specialist or analyst included.
Real cautioning signs for suicide are self-inflicted injuries, talking a ton about death or passing on, and searching out things that could be utilized as a part of a suicide endeavor, for example, weapons and medications. These signs are much more hazardous if the individual has a certain condition, for example, melancholy or a bipolar issue, experiences liquor abuse, or has a family history of suicide.
A more unobtrusive but risky cautioning sign of suicide is sadness. Studies have discovered that sadness is a solid indicator of suicide. Individuals who feel sad may discuss “terrible” emotions, anticipate a somber future, and express that they don’t have anything to anticipate.
Other cautioning signs that point to a self-destructive personality outline incorporates emotional episodes or sudden identity changes, for example, going from friendly to pulled back or from mellow to defiant. A self-destructive individual may likewise lose enthusiasm for everyday exercises, disregard his or her appearance, and show enormous changes in eating or sleeping.
Suicide cautioning signs
Discussing suicide – Any discussion about suicide, biting the dust, or self-hurt, for example, “I wish I wasn’t born,” “In the event that I don’t see you again…” and “I’d be happy when I’m dead.”
Searching out deadly means – Seeking access to weapons, pills, blades, or different articles that could be utilized as a part of a suicide endeavor.
Distraction with death – Unusual focus on death, passing on, or viciousness. Writing song or stories about death, even painting dark things and thoughts.
No expectation for the future – Feelings of vulnerability, misery, and being choked (“There’s no chance to get out”). A conviction that things will never show signs of improvement or change.
Self-hatred, self-loathing – Feelings of uselessness, blame, disgrace, and self-loathing. Having a feeling that they are weight to everyone they love (“Everyone would be in an ideal situation without me”).
Getting their issues in order– Making out a will. Giving endlessly prized belonging. Making plans for relatives, giving lots of money away.
Saying farewell – Unusual or startling visits or calls to family and companions. Saying farewell over social media to individuals as though they won’t be seen again.
Pulling back from others – Withdrawing from loved ones. Expanding social segregation. Want to be left alone.
Pointless conduct – Increased liquor or medication utilize heedless driving, risky sex. Going for broke as though they have a “desire to die.”
The sudden calm state of mind – A sudden feeling of calm and bliss in the wake of stressful situations to can greatly show that an individual has made his peace and decided they are going to commit suicide.
Suicide is a hard topic for most people, and usually, they don’t know how to approach it. If you find yourself in a room where somebody has begun talking about suicide it’s important to stop and listen, but if you want to join the conversation it’s important to know statistics and facts about suicide to be able to prevent it with your actions.
The more you know the better you will be prepared for any situation where the action might be required from you. Additionally, sometimes people want to listen to you and sometimes they just want you to listen, so make sure you can recognize when the moment is for talking and when it’s for listening. The biggest and most scary part of suicide is the fact that people start thinking that they can’t be helped or that this is the worst that can happen to them so they can’t see a better tomorrow.
It’s up to you and you alone to talk to these people and explain to them in their language how they can always look on the bright side because after the bad days there usually come some sunny and clearer ones. Here are some statistics that can help you and your general knowledge about suicide.
– Suicide is the second leading cause of death among British Columbia youth aged 10-18 after motor vehicle accidents *
– Approximately 7% of youth in British Columbia between grades 7-12 have reported making a suicide attempt in the previous year *
(remember to stress how important it is to know that next year everything can be better if people would just look ahead)
– Approximately 16% of youth in British Columbia between grades 7-12 have seriously considered suicide *
– Older youth between the ages of 15-18 are more likely to die by suicide than children and youth between the ages of 10-14 *
– In 2000, 35 British Columbian youth between the ages of 10-19 took their own life
– Adolescent males die by suicide 3 times as often as adolescent females *
– Canada loses close to 200 children and youth to suicide every year *
– Males typically use more lethal methods such as hanging and firearms
– Adolescent females are 4 to 7 times more likely to attempt suicide with pills than adolescent males
– Females typically use drugs, poisons, or gases – these methods often require more time to take effect and increase the opportunity for the youth to be found, and as a result, intervention is more likely – recently, however, females have been choosing more lethal methods.
* taken out of MCFD, 2008c
As we can see suicide is something that bothers both genders, some more during a certain period in their life, but usually, it spares nobody for long. The fact of the matter is that many people just need somebody to talk to and somebody to listen to them. If you ever find yourself fin a situation where you can use your experience to help somebody overcome depression give it your best as life has a funny way of returning good deeds.